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Are you a bad parent for leaving your child in the care of others?

This is a commonly asked question and even more common thought. Let me reassure you, all evidence points to that facts that each family is different, and it’s a conversation to have about what each person wants and how one can make it work, instead of assuming. Some mothers do want to stay at home and raise their kids (67% said so when surveyed), but that survey also showed that one in three would prefer to continue to work. When paternal leave is an option, many dads choose to take a little or a lot of time off to be with the kids.

Each child is different – what may be great for one can turn out to be a challenge for another.

Meeting many new people develops children’s Emotional Quotient (EQ) which is a stronger predictor of success in life that their Intelligence  Quotient (IQ).

Make your kids feel loved

The strongest predictor? Kids who are loved (yes, regardless of finances or family composition).

All parents are humans too

Second strongest? The “Good enough parenting” – nurturing environment where parents human i.e. not perfect, and not overly protective nor overly demanding in terms of achievement  

Let other people in

Third? Connection to community. Yes, it does take a village to raise a child, so tap into that power.

The bottom line: There is no perfect child care solution, no golden standard to aspire to. Each family’s path is different and can lead to equally good outcomes. So – RELAX and enjoy the parenting life.

This and much more very useful parenting advice available in our ebook: the #MUSTHAVE Guide to Child Care Options.

Posted: July 16, 2015